In fact, I'm quite in love with you.

This post is about

LOVE  ---^---^^----^---^^^--

In high school.



Here's the gist of it.

You are single and all your friends are dating. You're sitting there petting your cats (or whatever) and wondering when the right person will walk into your life. You're waiting, and waiting, and waiting. You watch sappy love movies and can't even relate.



Okay folks, this is LAME.

Because what even is love in high school?
Is it really worth all the heartache and drama?
I turned this whole post over to a big group of people I texted today, so these are all not my words.

I asked 3 simple questions.
1. Do you believe that two people really can fall in love in high school?
2. Approximately how many times have you thought you've been in love so far?
3. What are some clear signs of infatuation between a couple in high school?

SO TO ADDRESS QUESTION NUMERO UNO

DO YOU BELIEVE THAT 2 PEOPLE CAN FALL IN LOVE IN HIGH SCHOOL?

99% of the people I texted voted YES . One person voted NO.

A couple people gave examples of siblings or themselves.

Here's what google has told me:

A little less than 2% of high school sweethearts actually get married. (and even less stay married)

 

So what about the people that said they were in love but found someone else? Is love really a single event you feel with that ONE person, or can you feel it lots of times? Just because you don't end up with them, does that mean you didn't love them? It depends on your definition of love, I suppose. I have concluded that you don't really know if you loved someone until your over them or lose them, (unless you end up together forever), I look back now and can see when I was really in love or not.

 

 

 

SECOND: HOW MANY TIMES HAVE YOU FALLEN IN LOVE IN YOUR LIFE SO FAR?

 

None: 7 people

Once:6 people

Twice: 3 people

Three times: 3 people

 

I can tell you for a fact I have been in love twice. Knowing what I know now and who I am, I know what I felt was love. But i've also learned an important lesson, I think a lot of people should know. Our definition of love changes when our age, lives, and circumstances change. I look back and if I felt the same feelings I felt so long ago, today, it wouldn't be love now. But at the time that was true love to me.

So who are we to tell people they aren't in love?

 

#3 DANGER DANGER DANGER INFATUATION DANGER DANGER DANGER

 

Clear signs your fellow students have said about infatuation:

 

"Infatuation is when the person in the relationship is involved for selfish reasons. Whereas love is where your more concerned for the well being of the other person than yourself"

 

"PDA. Spending a lot of time together. Flirtation"

 

"Just wanting to make out all the time it should be more than that."

 

"No idea."

 

"Always together and become anti social."

 

"Holding hands/kissing in the halls...Awkward status!!"

 

"Always making out?"

 

"PDA. Text 24/7. Lose all their other friends."



I think nothing screams infatutation more than this video
 

 

I'm not saying that love can't happen, but most the time it is infatuation in high school. I think that we aren't really emotionally mature enough to take on what love really is, but hey I guess it can happen. All I'm saying is that if you are currently in love, good job! Keep it going.

 

If you're not, don't stress. You get to date so many people and learn exactly what you want before college. You get to improve your friendships before you continue onto relationships.

 

Graduation is in 212 days for us seniors and then we will be opened up into a sea of attractive college students.

 

If you're not a senior: GOOD LUCK! And stay strong

 

Being single in high school is not a bad thing, but neither is being in love either.

Just make sure you're ready for that kind of committment if you are going to call it love! :)

Slug Life

If everyone could have crawled through the hallways this week without getting trampled, I think they would have.

I call it "Shoot me now" week.
It's the week after any break from school.

Summer break
Fall Break
Thanksgiving Break
Christmas Break
Spring Break

The week after all of those is DEATH. And what do they do? They make the end of the term super close to that week back. It is the worst.

It's like a daze, a constant "zone out". School was only 4 days this week and it felt like 300. Get me out of this school. Get me out of this classroom. Get me out of flex. Get me out of practice. Don't get me out of bed.

I swear if anyone talked to me this week I probably spoke "sluggish" (hence slug life title) or some form of pig latin.

So what is the solution??  

Nothing. Nothing is the solution. Just endure. THANK GOODNESS FOR THE WEEKEND.

I hope you all survived.

-Nik

Back to sitting in an airport.

Déjà vu anyone?
I'm back to sitting in airport for four hours. My flight home was delayed. It looks like the universe just wants me to blog.

Well I guess I'll just talk about my trip. Wow there is so much I did! I am first off so grateful to my sister and brother in law for letting me stay and hang out with them here in Boston! I have had one of the best weekends of my whole life :)

Well instead of going moment by moment I will say my 3 favorite things about Boston.

#1: The city itself.
Never have I seen such a beautiful city! The whole time I was just like *is this real life?* The charles river is so cool. The ocean is calm and magnificent next to a city full of skyscrapers, history sites, and universities. It was A-MAZ-ING.

#2: The history
Not only did we see lots of sights from the revolutionary war but we the streets looked like that time period!! It was beautiful. If you ever want to see where George Washington stood while looking out at the city and ocean from Dorchester heights during a sunset, Boston is the place for you! :) the houses look like that old and beautiful and cobblestone streets are so cool. We saw where battles were fought for the revolutionary war all the way up Tia hotel John Wilkes booth sat two weeks before he assassinated Abraham Lincoln.

#3: The food.
It never stopped. The goodness never stopped. Never. It was fantasticarastical (new word, no meaning whatsoever). It was like heavens gates opened, and the food delivery truck in heaven accidentally left the back open and the food poured into Boston. Where did it come from? All I know is I will never eat food in Utah the same.

Well I have 2 hours left. Don't be surprised for more blog posts if I get bored.

5 things

It's another one of those "Me" blog posts, but hey every girl needs those at times. Well because I have been sitting at the airport for 3 hours, and in fear of my bag getting stolen if I fall asleep, I figured I might as well write something.

5 things

1. Last night was senior night for a lot of the Utah county High schools. It was bittersweet. It was such a surreal feeling when they announced my fellow seniors and I as the "seniors". It kinda made me wonder where the time went, and think back on everything. I have some regrets from my past years of cheer, but I am determined to finish strong, like most of my cheer sisters (and brothers).

2. Jesse Crossett is my best friend. I have a lot of best friends, but he's like the twin brother I always needed. I'm so lucky to have a friend like him. Friends like that are the ones that are never disloyal, and they are always there for you. Those are the true friends in high school.

3. Go Mitt! And yes, I did adopt my political views from my parents at FIRST. Then I took all you "anti-Romney-ers" advice and did research.... Go Mitt! ;)

4. I decided I observe people way too much. Not in a judging way, just fascinated I guess. I mean when I'm at school it's cool to see all these different people come together in one place, and I just like to observe. I wonder what they've fought through in their lives, their struggles, and their triumphs. I'm just weird I guess. But I like to think *every person here has their own story* . This one is helping me stay awake while at the airport.

5. Smoking honestly breaks my heart. It's such an unhealthy and expensive habit, and I feel bad for people addicted. As I walked past the smoking room at the airport today I kinda glanced in. A man, who looked like he was in his 80s, looked up at me and then kind of looked down in shame or something. He looked right back up and I smiled at him and waved as I passed. He looked shocked. He probably had never gotten a very nice gesture while smoking in an airport before (or maybe he thought I was some crazy teenager- or his granddaughter that he forgot because he's old. Who knows why he really looked shocked) I feel bad for the people who have fallen under this terrible addiction. The problem is people make them feel like they are terrible people, when its really just a terrible habit. I'm not trying to justify smoking. But no one knows why someone got into smoking (unless they tell you). But for the most part we don't know. It's just sad. I hope people in high school really look at the habit seriously now that we know all the facts.

I Hate(Love) You ... Rivalries and Plans

 

 

 

  
    

   

High school RIVALS. A lot of schools actually hate their school rivals, but not MV and Orem. Even though we get super competitive and mean on game day, after that's all passed we are all friends again. I don't really know why we are like that, but I like it. That game was awesome! Even though Orem won, it was great. It was cool to see everyone wearing white, while orem all wore black. I really do love rival games, and I think everyone can agree that they are one of the best things about high school.

Rival games are so fun! You get to get all painted up and go CRAZY. Also, the pep rallies! This year my friend Nicole and I are in charge of the pep rallies. MV had a really good one! It was very successful! Jadon pace, Mr. Glahn, Mr. Fong, and Mr. Herriford all got pie to the face (and we forgot to get the towels to wipe their faces off-- oops!) Davy and Jadon both got cool hoodies!

That day was crazy. First I only went to first period. After that Nicole and I were setting up the rally alllll dayyyyyy longgggg. It was a lot of work, but I think that's the only way we kept from having a break down. Thank you for all those who helped us!

After the rally the typical high school thing happened. You see your ex with someone new, and you're just like... ah. Oh well. I think most people can relate to me when I say the feeling sucks. But I decided to write a little bit about it because I think I came up with a solution.

Be Nice To Them.

It's the weirdest thing! I decided to approach the situation and be as nice as I could. Suddenly every emotion I had built up on the whole thing was gone. I was a little sarcastic about talking to them earlier that week, but not this time. I would truly be friends with them.

So for all those who are dealing with it (jealousy) there is hope! It only takes a couple minutes of nicely talking to them (don't try and make it awkward... it doesn't work) and suddenly you're over it. It's healing and it stops any more high school drama from happening.

I think this is the first time I've really opened up in my blog, but that's because I don't like to make it about me. I don't like to sit here and whine about my problems or brag about any accomplishments. But I think this is different because maybe you can relate and maybe I can offer some advice.

Jealousy is a sick thing in high school. Not only when it comes to your exes, but also just normal other people. Sometimes I look at people and think *Why can't I just be as liked as her?* or *Why can't I be as skinny as her?*

It can RUIN high school. That was me last year. My junior year was spent constantly thinking about how I can get others to approve me. How I can have a good reputation. I decided to throw that out the window, and try to be there for others. Don't let jealousy get in the way of what really matters, and go out there and help!

Okay nuff' of that. Wow that was really random, I'm sorry.

 

A CHANGE OF PLANS:

CAUTION: A PART ON JUST ME AND MY LIFE

 

A big thing happened to Utah yesterday.A big change announced on LDS general conference. Missionaries can now leave younger. Boys can go when they are 18, and girls can go when they are 19. I don't feel bad for posting about this, because 95% of my readers are from Orem. So a lot of people know this.

My plan was always to go to Hawaii. I would leave right after graduation and start on my Marine Biology career. BYU Hawaii, and then eventually Hawaii Pacific University. Then this curve ball happened.

I'm now staying in Utah for a year, and then leaving on a full time LDS mission (hopefully) on my 19th birthday. (full time for girls is 18 months, and boy it is 24 months, in case you were wondering)

I feel like I want to talk about this because a lot of us have a plan. Or our plan is to figure out a plan later on. A lot of high school kids have plans, not just LDS kids. We have places we want to go and sights we want to see. Then life changes. People change. PLANS CHANGE.

 

Suddenly you're like, wait what do I do now?

It takes a lot of self discipline to make new plans even if you were set on something else. It takes a lot to keep a good attitude. Even if you chose this new path, it's hard to say goodbye to the old one.

But if you do it well, and you stay positive, it WILL WORK OUT.

 

I hope everyone comes up with plans and they all work out :)